Lisa Shouldice MA, RP, CCP, Psychotherapist

Individual, Couple & Family Counselling / Psychotherapy

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Self-care is Not a Luxury

Posted on 30 June, 2017 at 10:40 Comments comments (2)
I am so excited at this time of year when I open my Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn accounts to see lots of articles, links and Blogs circulating about self-care. But I do think we lose sight of self-care as an all-day, everyday practice, including the times we need a bit extra. So let's open up about the concept of self-care in our lives. Self-care is many things from stopping our work at 4:00 to make a hot, immune-boosting tea as the days get longer and colder, do Y... Read Full Post »

Conscious Couples

Posted on 14 June, 2017 at 11:55 Comments comments (0)
The idea of Conscious Couples has been getting thrown around a lot lately. I even use the idea/concept in my work with couples now, including a quick article if I feel the couple I am working with may be receptive to it. A Conscious Couple in a nutshell, is the idea that personal growth and healing are a part of coupling and even a goal that is important to the couple and their relationship. These are couples that recognize they came to the relationship with a history, includ... Read Full Post »

Strength in Healing

Posted on 16 August, 2016 at 14:40 Comments comments (0)
When we decide to enter a therapeutic relationship and begin a healing journey, we often begin by talking about self-care and coping. These are areas of strength and resiliency that help us get through tough times. When we are in therapy we sometimes feel worse before we get better. This is likely because when we are in therapy we are talking about the things and relationships that are not working in our lives, and presenting the personal qualities that we would like to change. This can ... Read Full Post »

Self Harm and Teens

Posted on 23 September, 2015 at 0:40 Comments comments (0)

Do You Have a Sensitive Teen?

Self-Harm and Finding a Path To Self-care

Self-harm is often a big, scary word for parents. So I wanted to put pen to paper to address it today for what it is, why it develops and what to do if you worry that your teenager may self harm (ex: cut themselves). It is estimated that anywhere from 14-39% of teens engage in self-harm behaviour. Maybe you have caught them and have no not idea what to do. You may just want to be able ...

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Hirise Article: Anxiety and Its Impact On Our Daily Lives

Posted on 30 June, 2015 at 14:00 Comments comments (0)

Do you frequently worry and feel panicky with a racing heart? You may be experiencing anxiety. 12% of Canadians suffer from some type of anxiety. So approximately, one out of every 12 people reading this article struggles with anxiety. The most common type is Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) which may consist of hot and cold flashes, racing heart, tightening in the chest &/or escalating worries and obsessive thinking. Feeling irritable or restless is often described to me by client...

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LGBT and Self-injury

Posted on 24 June, 2015 at 9:05 Comments comments (0)

This morning I am taking the time to read "Freedom From Self-Harm- Overcoming Self-Injury with Skills from DBT and Other Treatmenents by Kim Gratz & Alexander Chapman.  As a psychotherapist that has supported clients with complex trauma, self-harm is an issue I have worked with often. Self-injury is a coping skill that is used to deal with intense affect.  People tend to discover its powers during a time in their lives when they are struggling. The biggest issue with using self-...

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Movie Inside Out and Emotional Intelligence

Posted on 20 June, 2015 at 10:50 Comments comments (0)

I went to the opening night of the Disney-Pixar Movie Inside Out, last night.  What a fabulous production!  It was laugh out loud funny, exciting and made you laugh and cry.  But what struck me was the teachings on emotional intelligence.  The major points in the movie includes learning to accept all of our different feelings, including the ones we struggle with.  They keep us safe and help us process loss as well as protect ourselves.  But what I loved the most ...

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Having A Healthy Family When Mental Health Issues are on the Rise

Posted on 6 June, 2015 at 17:30 Comments comments (0)

We live in a world where 20% of Canadians will be challenged by a mental health issue at some point in their lifetime. Most Canadians are also indirectly affected by having either family members or friends that struggle. Canadian youth are one of the groups the most effected by this reality (CMHA http://www.cmha.ca/media/fast-facts-about-mental-illness/). How do we keep our young families healthy in this environment? How can families be a preventative tool to buffer its members from exper...

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Aboriginal Genocide: History Does NOT Have To Repeat Itself

Posted on 4 June, 2015 at 9:10 Comments comments (0)

I read an article from the Globe and Mail last night that is currently circulating on social media sites as of yesterday.  The residential school report came back and has decided that what Canada has done to Aboriginal people and their families is a cultural genocide.  People are angry.  I need to address this. As a non-Aboriginal person that believes a part of my calling as a Psychotherapist includes the honour and privelege of supporting Aboriginal people on their healing pat...

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What Makes Marriage Last?

Posted on 25 May, 2015 at 10:20 Comments comments (0)

I have been rereading a well-known book by a pioneer in marital research, John Gottman. He has spent his career researching marriage and what makes it last as well as being satisfying for both partners. What struck me in that most of us assume healthy communication is the key. Marriage therapy often at least includes an element of this if it is not the main target. As a couple counsellor, most people that call me for couple counselling say their main issue to communication. BUT according...

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